Kaili Georgie,

On June 10th, 1999 my life changed forever when you made me a Mom.  I will never ever forget the bond we had right away. I did not think it was possible to love more than I loved those in my life already until you were born. When they announced “it’s a Girl”, I broke down in tears because I so badly wanted a girl, a daughter, a little BFF to love, to dress, to dance with, to shop with, to build up, and to step into her greatness and shine bright in the world. 

You are a dream come true!

You are the best of Dad and me. We could not be any more proud of you.     You became the center of my universe, and it was you and I that grew together, a mother and her beautiful baby girl.   As a baby, you were delightful, adorable, and our pride and joy!  While adorable on the outside, it has always been your spirit and nature that have been irresistible to me.

You became a “big sissy” and I missed our one-on-one time. But I felt so blessed by our family. A sibling is the best gift you can give your child (remember that).  You were a little bossy, but otherwise a playmate to your baby brother. 

As a little girl, you were delightful. 

You loved to dance, you loved art, you loved to laugh, and you were always just kind and full of love and fun—silly and sweet would easily describe your disposition.  I have such fond memories of so many times spent together and the Lilly Mommy & Me outfits. Sorry, but I had to.    I pray God blesses you with a daughter someday so that you can do the same.  You balanced your rambunctious brothers (the two cubs) so well, and God gave me you, a girl to adore because I would have my hands filled with 3 babies in 3 years. 

As a tween, you were again a joy to parent.

You were silly, fun, and one of the most positive girls in middle school.  That is not an easy time for girls. While I am sure you had challenges, you always remained who you are kind, loving, and spirited. I could not be more proud to be your Mom.  People talk about the teenage years and girls, but my darling, I adored those years. While there may have been a few moments of “Kaili, what’s that in your bag?”, by far it was so much fun.  

Dad and I always enjoyed you, parenting you, and being with you.

How blessed we are to call you our girl.   As my only daughter, you and I have even more of a special bond. We love the same things, get each other, laugh until we cry, and are touched deeply with empathy for others. We share many of the same values and I did not expect it. But when God gave me you, he gave me a Best Friend (as I think about now and our future).  All those weekends of dance, watching you grow from little girl to grown woman has been both inspiring and the greatest blessing of my life. 

I am not your typical mom.

I am not your typical dance mom (no scorekeeper here). I am not your average soccer Mom (because I refuse to drive a minivan and wear mom jeans). I probably (okay I do) swear more than I should. But I love my babies more than anything. While I don’t try and fit in as a Mom, I hope you see me stand out as me, your mother that loves nothing more than you and your brothers, and I will cheer you on and be there for you.  I can’t believe college graduation is almost here. You will begin a new stage in life.  It is exciting and you are so ready.   I hope I am as ready as you.

Here we are…

You are at Nationals with your team, surrounding yourself with beautiful people.  Kaili, always know your worth, and always surround yourself with “your people”.  In life, you will figure this out even more, and the earlier on, the better.  You, by nature, are extraordinary! You have a heart of gold. You are beautiful inside and out. You have a light that shines bright.  Do not let others try and dim your light! You need to understand that has nothing to do with you, it is them.   You already have everything you need inside of you, trust that, lead with your heart, but be smart and discern as you navigate (gut instinct is the wisdom inside, trust it). 

In coaching women, I share “Go Where the Love Is”.

This statement means be with the people that love you, that get you, and that build you up.  You deserve this! You are this for others and always make sure you demand it for yourself.  Always believe in yourself, believe in God, and know that you are always okay, no matter what (breathe).  Live life fully, enjoy the moments, and always know that no matter where you are, I am there with you.  My love for you is so strong, it is always with you. 

Let it fill you up, let it guide you, and give you strength. I think you know that I do not love anything more than my 3 children.  You are my world, my love for you is endless, eternal, and something that is so special and never goes away.   Remember, you are a Guyer (Mellor)! So hold your head high, know you are loved, be kind to others, and don’t take anybody’s shit!   You are my daughter and my soul and spirit are so strong, I hope you feel that even when you are not with me. 

Bitsy Boo…

You might be a grown woman, but to me, you will always and forever be my baby girl!   God did not only give me a daughter, he gave me the best girl ever, and My Best Friend (I think I can finally call you that).  And know this… I will always have your back.  I will always be in your corner, and I will always be here for you and have your best interest at heart.  Part of parenting is letting go, just know I am holding on so tight while I let go.  You are ready to Fly.  Fly Little Birdie, Fly, but be sure to come home and see your Momma because you are my favorite girl in the whole entire world.   Okay, world:  “I’m Kaili. I’m Kaili Guyer!!!!!! I am ready to not only fly but to shine my light in the world.  Fly Little Birdie (Skyhawk), Fly!

Let’s ACE Nationals!!!!!

Love, Mommy 

And the Oscar goes to….. Lady Gaga. The Oscars this year were an example of emotional reaction vs. empathy and kindness. I am going to talk about the latter, and how we need more of this in our world, in companies, in schools, and in communities.

I got you!

Lady Gaga reassures Liza Minelli, with 3 simple words (and physical attention to back it up) “I got you”. Imagine this same spirit, expression, and partnership residing in every space and place in the world. I do imagine a world like that, because I do believe in the power of love, and kindness, and that we are meant to be there for each other in a supportive, caring way. We underestimate the power of heart-centered living and heart-centered leadership, and in that, we miss out on values that could change everything for people as they work and live together.

Women supporting women is especially powerful.

This is our opportunity to rise to our greatest level and bring out the best in ourselves and in each other. I personally have experienced both the support of other women and I have experienced the tearing down. I am such a strong proponent of women supporting women because it is powerful. It stands for everything I believe in, and aligns with my value system. Teamwork, kindness, belief, positive spirit, empathy, encouragement, and empowerment to name a few. On the contrary, when we are not in that space, it brings out such an ugly and jaded side of women, which is difficult to tolerate: competitive, jealous, and undermining others in pursuit of standing out. It. Needs. To. Stop.

How do we do this? Where do we begin?

We begin with ourselves. We grow as a woman and as a person. We work on ourselves in becoming a better version of who we are and how we experience the world and others around us. We do not settle for the status quo of the people around us gossiping, putting others down, complaining, and blaming. We seek better. We surround ourselves with the people that lift us up. We surround ourselves with positive people, positive thoughts, and an open heart that not only believes in ourselves, but believes in the best of others.

As you go through your day and look at yourself and how you operate in the world, ask yourself how you support others? How do you fill your soul with good intentions and good thoughts and bring that out into the world? A smile at a stranger, a compliment to another woman, and deep recognition and encouragement to the people in your life.

This is how we do it. Do you want to be the light, or do you want to be the dark? Share your light with the world, beginning with yourself. It is in our simple interactions, and that will raise our vibe in the world. Women hold such power, and when we come together as a positive force, we truly will change the world!

This was a theme recently when I described my role as a Mom. Looking back, I always did motherhood my own way. I did not try and fit in (and compare myself to other moms), I stood out and did me (which was a self proclaimed combination of Lucille Ball and Martha Stewart), but it was me.

It is not just motherhood, I do this in life,

I do this in work, in relationships, and in the communities I am part of. The younger Pam would have tried to fit in. But years ago, I learned that was just not me (even thou I looked the profile). I actually don’t fit in with the “group" because I don’t like the mentality, some of the behavior, and the copy cat, surface level conversation, and to me it is so JV (I subscribed to this when I was younger). So “who’s who” and “who you know” are not a thing for me, because of my values. And that is what I have realized it comes down too.

I don’t value prestige (even thou it’s fun to see a celeb or successful person). I don’t value “group think”, when women are together and are trying to keep up with each other (and how they dress, and what they do, and how they spend their time). I find it exhausting and so unattractive (again, it is so JV).

What can happen in these situations is that things can get competitive and/or they can be surface level (lacking depth & authenticity). Most importantly, while some are nice, the behavior can be ugly, catty, or immature. This is not high school anymore ladies! It is time to grow up, not group up,

Varsity looks completely different.

Varsity is heart centered, collaborative, positive, and supportive. Don’t get me wrong…there are many circles and groups that are powerful women coming together and are positive, dynamic, and building each other up and those around them. These are the tribes, groups, and circles you want to be in. However, when you observe negativity, gossip, competition, group mentality etc., this is not your place!

Don’t be like the crowd, darling!

Step up and out and stand in your strength. We need to demand better as women and we need to demand better for and of ourselves. This topic has been unleashed in me in a way that is even bigger than standing out. It is stepping up, speaking up, and owning our power and worth no matter what! You have a spirit, you have a voice and you have a light that shines bright. Don’t ever let anyone try and dim your light. When they do, that has nothing to do with you, that is on them.

Every single one of us deserves better.

Every single one of us has a voice. What ever is stirring inside of you, let your higher self lead you to standing up for yourself and others. I believe so much in this. I have written about it for over a decade. Not only do we need to align ourselves with the people who get us (like minded, positive, empowering), but also we need to be the encourager and believer of others.

Our words have such power. As women, we need to make sure we are using them to ignite the best in ourselves and in others. Collaboration over competition, empathy over ego, joy over jealousy, caring over catty, and love over labels. This is what we are talking about.

So while I process a lot, uncover a ton, and stand stronger than before (I am guided by God, this is bigger than me).

I am speaking up not only for me, but for every girl or woman that needs to believe in herself and know her worth. This spiritual throw down is not just that. It is an awakening, a Giant within. The Giant within is your worth. We all have been recognized and appreciated. Yet, at times, we have been dismissed and silenced (we gave our power away).

We need to take our power back, take our voice back, and stand up (even if we need to stand alone). When we do this, the universe will conspire. Your spirit is stronger and your worth is greater. Do not let the opinions or behaviors of others bring you down, rise up, and know you are enough. in fact, you are more than enough. Also, discern who you model and who you look to as a Mentor on how to thrive authentically.

At the core of this all are our core values.

Obviously, we all have different values. What helps me feel strong and confident is the clarity I have on my values. I am very clear about what is important to me and what I admire in others. Aligning myself with people and places that are in line with my values.

I value authenticity. I love people who are the real deal, who are down to earth, open minded, own who they are, and they don’t hustle for relationships or social connections. They thrive in their own vibe. They are confident in their own skin, and they appreciate people for who they are, not what they do or where they come from.

Character is EVERYTHING to me when it comes to people.

Integrity is right up there, especially for leaders and professionals. A key attribute to the people I surround myself with (or even expose myself to) is not only positivity, but also kindness. There is nothing more beautiful, powerful, and attractive than a positive, kind, caring woman. In the face of adversity or challenges, grace and quiet strength are her weapons and inner strength.

You have a light inside of you.

It is your dharma, your spirit, and your reminder that you matter. You are important, and you belong. God’s purpose for me is to inspire women to rise up, know they are worthy, and to let our light shine. We need to do this for ourselves and each other. So not only do we need to work on ourselves (we can do better), we also need to inspire this in others.

Surround yourself with the light seekers, the positive spirits, the kind souls that want the best for you and will stand up for you and encourage you. And you do the same for them. Don’t you dare let anyone dull your spirit or dim your light. Shine bright and stand up, because you were not born to fit in,. You were born to stand out!

The picture for this post includes my book ends.

it is my mother and my daughter. My mother was instrumental in demonstrating kindness, positive spirit, and how a woman stands out in the world. It is not power. It is not cut throat. But it is about grace, heart, kindness, and love. A gift she gave me is her example. I have taught that to my daughter, who I must say is an amazing woman that is the real deal, caring, kind, spirited and the kind of girl you want your daughter to be around. As women, we need to rise up to the occasion, and even if our Moms were not that way, we need to be that way, and teach it to the next generation. Nice Girls are in fact the Prettiest!

I am all about women’s empowerment.

I have been a champion for women and moms for almost 3 decades. As a leader, I have inspired thousands with words of encouragement, examples of obstacles, and have used humor and heart to share a story all in the name of encouragement. As a Speaker, I have spoken to both large and small audiences and the message is all about casting a vision, building belief, following your spiritual invitation, and doing the work in making it happen which is both mental and physical.

It was International Women’s Day, and I could not get myself to post.

I have jumped at any opportunity to celebrate women. In fact, I have been a speaker on International Women’s Day. it is a day we talk about the women that inspire us, some that we know, and others that we may have never met.

But, I could not get myself to post anything.

Yes, I feel blessed with the women in my life, and I am so grateful for these people. A big part of what I talk about is not just living your best life, but I also call out on how women work together and how we need to get even better at this. I know in my heart that there is a universal connection of all moms in the world. A mother’s love is something you cannot describe. You can only feel it. I feel the need to state that as mothers, we need to rise up and serve each other even more.

My heart is breaking over Ukraine.

As I talk about my tribe and the feel good of my business and people feels so surface right now in the face of the disaster that exists in the world. Right now I am not buzzing about my tribe. Right now I am quiet, praying, and thinking about the disparity in the world.

I can’t help but think we can do better.

I can’t help but to think if there were a Mom Code, whereby if there is any sort of disaster in the world, the mothers from all countries rise and serve (be it financial, rallying together in spirit, or volunteering). How can we see this disaster, and still post about our tribes, and celebrate womanhood and/or our lives? I know we have to live. I know I will go on to post my daily life while ignoring the dire situation in the world. Why can’t we do both?

Why can’t we do more?

Why isn’t there a Mom Code? In fact, when children are involved we get into Mamma Bear mode and help out (again, financially, using our voices, and for some volunteering). I guess what I am trying to say that I believe with my whole heart, that there is no other powerful love than that of a mother. For anyone that is a mom, you know exactly what I mean.

You love nothing on Earth more than you love your babies (no matter their age). That is a universal fact for most of us. It is unspoken. I can’t help but to wonder…how do we turn that love into a team effort, and every mom rises up to take action to help the situation in Ukraine?

I do believe women are a powerhouse.

If we are all working together and on the same team, we can accomplish great things. Ladies, we need to work together, build each other up, and stop playing small. When we rise to that level, we are capable of anything. Likewise, when it comes to the love and passion of a mother, and if we treat these children as our collective children, we will move mountains. I believe that with all of my heart.

It is all so big and so hard.

Here I sit with these thoughts, and I can’t play small. I can’t pretend nothing is happening and not be involved in some way. I can’t focus on the surface stuff, because I am deep, and there is so much depth to my purpose and how I interact with the world. Somehow, having to balance that with living, moving forward, and controlling what I can and letting go of what I can’t control, I’ve got some mindset work to do. My heart and mind hurt right now. I don’t do small talk, fake talk, and The Who’s who in social circles. it is so JV and just not me. I don’t even know where to begin because it is so big, and it is bigger than me.

I can only ask this….

If you are a mom (or Auntie and loving/caring spirit in the world), please pause, look at these babies and moms, and do what you can. Whether it be through prayer, advocacy, donation, or volunteering. Acknowledge it and speak up. These babies and moms need us right now.

So this year, I feel absolutely no desire to use words of empowerment and rant about my tribe. I am begging every mom and woman to hold hands around this tribe, the Ukrainian moms and children. Lets do better on their behalf.

I am talking about something that does not exist, but maybe we put it into existence.

it is the Mom Code. it is that Momma Bear love that comes out for our own children. Yet it is so powerful that we share it and connect it in the world. My mantra is Lead with Love. Love is the most powerful force in the world.

XO,

Pam

Today I celebrate 20 years of launching a business in Direct Sales. It was 20 years ago that I got completely uncomfortable and reluctantly started a business in Direct Sales. This was not part of the plan, in fact, I did not even like Direct Sales, I was not one of those people nor did I have interest in becoming one. I had just completed my Master Degree the year prior, I had a great career in Training & Development but the demands of work and family became too much for me. There had to be a better way...

This corporate girl turned stay at home Mom was desperate for something.

I had a strong desire to to create an income working from home with a flexible schedule, it was that desire that helped me open my mind to the possibility as opposed to my fear of “what will other people think”. In March of 2002, I was 7 months pregnant, had a 1 year old and a 2 year old in tow and launched my business in Direct Sales—I was not convinced this would be the right choice for me, but I jumped in anyway. No experience, no time, so much resistance, but a curious mind and a strong desire for change. Fast forward, my husband was laid off from his hot start up, the technology & telecom industry tanked, and our dreams of what that could be fell apart. We went from having it all, to realizing we did not have a Plan B, and that feeling fired me up to make this business work. I saw women across the country that were making a 6 figure income, and I declared “if they can do it, I can do it too”. I worked my business part time but incredibly focused and consistent, within a few years I promoted to the top of that company.

In that time, I realized I had stumbled upon a great opportunity.

While on the outside it looked like sales, and that I was selling lipstick and eye cream (oh the stories I could tell you of the passive aggressive women and the comments along the way). While others thought what they thought (blinders on), I was building a multi-million dollar business from my home office, from my kitchen table, and in living rooms and kitchens all over New England. I will never forget earning my car with this company, it felt like such a big deal as it was a trophy in some ways. I felt a bit embarrassed and also proud, a combination of feelings as I on the outside was a overwhelmed mom of 3 little kids, and the truth is that I was building a wildly successful business which would surpass both mine and my husband’s combined corporate income. My girlfriend and neighbor loves to talk about the first time I backed out of my garage with the car (she was in the culdesac talking with other moms), and she said jaws dropped when I back out in my car, and waved hello (which was one of those eye of the tiger moments, sometimes we just need to show them).

I loved the dichotomy of being me, a mom first and to most, I had a small business I worked from home.

The reality was that I was building this incredible team, and we experienced incredible growth and success, it became my platform to use my skills of speaking, teaching and motivating others, I had a sense of purpose, and I was building an incredible business which resulted in residual income, and so much leadership training and growth. Cocktail parties were fun in my affluent community when some husbands would ask me what I did, I was under the radar socially with my business, but I was holding a truth that I was one of the most successful people in the room. That was exciting, strange, and something I was not prepared for, nor was I prepared for the ups and downs of business, and the down economy in 2008. In my business I was a stand out and this company it was more like a celebrity, and at home in my community I was a Mom, and without social media these worlds did not co-exist publicly. I would experience both success and failure over the years, and would grow from a young mom to a women with grown children (how did we get here)? The time after this was a time of transformation, personal growth and I discovered my work hard/play hard mentality needed to shift, and in that time I became less about hustle and more about heart, yoga became my platform to uncover parts of me that had been wanting to be heard.

I had built a long term sustainable & residual income.

I worked so hard for years that I built an “annuity” that paid no matter how much or little I worked. The plan was never to leave, but God had other plans for me. It was 7 years ago in March that I left my first company that I loved so much to become part of Beautycounter. I loved the mission, brand, CEO and the opportunity, I knew I could help so many more women and I was drawn to this company. This one decision led to so many people joining over the years, I knew this opportunity was something special and I am so proud of the fair compensation plan, and the important work we were doing. Life hit hard, losing my Mom to Cancer was something I was not prepared for, and after her short illness my walls and world came crumbling down, I would experience some depression and every vulnerability in me was exposed, I had to deal with parts of me that felt the opposite of success, and these dark places felt like failure. What I know to be true is that we all have our light and dark, they are gifts in some way. We just need to shine the light on the dark, and learn self acceptance, compassion, empathy and vulnerability. I continue to grow in this area (even thou I fall and flounder at times).

A highlight in this time was that all 3 of those babies graduated high school and were off to college.

Charlie and I achieved our dream of living by the beach by building a home in a quint village on Boston’s North Shore. This was part of our vision for years, and to be in it now, and in a new stage of empty nesters is just wild and weird. I have learned that life is all about balance, the ying and the yang, the dreams and the discontents, the light and the dark, it is not all magical, it is both the wonder of magical and the reality of messy. Life is both….

I pinch myself thinking 20 years, I have done this work from home, virtual & now digital business for 20 years.

I started out as the young mom, passionate, driven, motivated and on purpose (even thou deep down I had fear and doubts). I watched women succeeding, speaking and leading others, in my mind, I wanted to do that and be that. These women became my circle, mentors and while I was appearing to be the Mom w/a side business, I was actually a Mom with a multi-million dollar business, speaking, inspiring and motivating others to find their yes and their moment. Today, I am the seasoned one (okay older one) with hard earned experience both in business and life. I love nothing more than encouraging a Mom in business, and supporting her as she casts a vision for here life, and tries to balance the demands of work and family. It is not easy, but it is so worth it! I made the mistakes, I have reached the other side and I have a viewpoint like no other, as I have raised the babies, did so in a dedication to family living and created a home and family that makes my spirit soar!

As I celebrate this milestone, I am grateful for the people that supported me and came into my life over the past 20 years.

Some of the greatest mentors, some of the greatest of friends—and my friends and family that always believed in me and encouraged me (even when they thought I was crazy). It was never about the eye cream or lipstick for me, it was always about my Vision and sharing it with others and inspiring others to create their own vision. It was always about using my voice as a force for good, teaching and developing leaders, growing a dynamic team, establishing a spirit of team work, and building a sense of purpose in my life and in the lives of others. The best part of this business has been the personal growth, some of which I embraced and mastered, and also the lessons I did not plan for, but came in the way of obstacles and failure. I am not done. I don’t know what the next decade will bring and at this point in my life I am not worried about that. I am able to prioritize myself and undo all of the “shoulds” I thought I needed to do. With age comes wisdom, and it is from that lense that I both practice, learn and teach.

While financial success was the focus in the beginning, it is so much more than that to me.

I never would have started in this industry if I had not been a Mom that was desperate to find a way to balance work and family from the comfort of my home. That one decision led to many opportunities, and looking back, what I am most proud of is that “we” did it! My vision was to raise a beautiful family, well rounded children and great human beings. I could not be more proud of my kids, they are by far my best work (and guess what, it was not just me, it was the community we built and became part of).

I have a soft spot for Moms because for me, that was always the driver.

It was what led me down this path. What gets me out of bed in the morning is not product ingredients or the amazing lotions and potions I love, what gets me out of bed is helping women and moms create their best life, and using a business like this (or their own brand) as a vehicle for positive change in themselves, in their lives, in their families and in the world! My purpose is to inspire women and Moms to design a life and vision based on their desires (and perhaps discontents), and with a positive mindset, spirit of belief and hard work, it is possible for everyone.

My alignment and where I am leaning in is Manifestation.
I believe in the power of Manifestation.
I believe in the power of our words, thoughts and actions.

We attract what we think.

I am convinced they are either working for us or against us. I have learned that personally and I have learned that through great teachers of this subject. I experienced this even when I did not truly understand the power of manifestation. Our minds are so powerful. We attract what we think. It is that simple.

I had an amazing conversation with Oprah’s former producer (I know, mind-blowing) and she is on this amazing journey of manifestation. While she has learned from the best teachers in the world, she needed to make shifts, make changes, and truly own this process.

It is amazing what happens when we stop pushing, stop pulling, and just receive.

I have done all of those things, and I find peace and ease to be the magic in this when we open ourselves mindfully to receive. I also have experienced not being aligned, and this happens throughout my journey, sign posts are everywhere, and we need to trust ourselves and what we sense, what we feel, and lean into the possibilities that are inside of us.

We all have “things” going on.

Let me get right to this (the thought that some of you might have), you want to get better at manifestation, but you have this, that, or the other thing going on. We all have “things”, be it actual things or challenges either within ourselves or around us. While we need to be a steward and aware of those things, what we need to do as well is to look at the opportunity and not dwell on the problem.

I found myself, at one point, so focused on a problem that it wasn’t fun. I was off track, not feeling like me ,and knowing what I know, no wonder, I was giving space only to that issue and not to it’s resolve. It is important for us to ask this question, “Are we more focused on the “issue" or negative impact? Or are we more focused on creating the positive outcome and creating a vision of a better situation and the possibilities?

LEAN IN!

Lean in to the possibilities. Lean into your imagination of what you desire and the positive outcome. Lean in to the better version of you. She speaks life into herself and others. She shines bright. She rests and rejuvenates her body in a loving and kind way. She is mindful and not busy. She lives life on her terms and no one else’s. She speaks to herself like she would speak to her friend, her sister, or her daughter. Loving thoughts. Loving Energy. Loving Words.

I think about manifestation in my own life.

I truly have manifested the #%^U out of life, but I am not done. In fact, I know I need to build my manifestation muscle even more. I also have a “monkey brain”. My monkey brain easily gets distracted. It can go into overdrive, spin, and go south. My mindful brain tries to grab that monkey brain and calm her down.

Otherwise, I have had a lifetime full of manifestation. As a child my imagination was wild and dream like. That imagination, wonder, and vision is still a big part of who I am. I have manifested so much.

How do I know this works?

It began going to college, then it was meeting my Prince Charming (Charlie), and then it was our home. After that, it was our community. Then, it was our dream home and our family centered life. It was my home based business, my flex schedule, and my leadership role. It was the children we raised (we hit the jackpot). it was building my personal brand. Then, it was meeting Oprah and spending 2+ hours with her. Next, it was our dream of living by the beach, and a million little things in between.

It is my lifestyle, and when I say this I mean the simplicity. As I get older, I crave more simplicity, more joy, more yoga, more flexibility, and more time and space to be (as opposed to do). Every one of these things were a vision I had. I believed so much in each one of those things (even when others doubted me) and I manifested (and worked hard) to create all of these blessings. I did not act alone. This is all a co-creation with God (and the Universe)—it is true that the Universe is listening, as is God.

Speak life into your dreams.

Picture your grandest and highest self and believe that anything is possible. I believe, do you? Most of it did not happen as I planned and in the time I planned it. It was according to a power greater than me. It was divine timing, not my own (and I did not like that and still don’t at times).

I am being pushed spiritually right now. I am going to be honest, I have not fully opened up to the calling. I am aware of that and I am working on that. There are signs and there is a whisper, and when we pay attention we flow. When we don’t it gets bigger and bolder, and so much that the whisper screams louder and louder (directing you down a different path).

Is there a whisper you have ignored?

Are you pushing or pulling or struggling and not allowing? Quiet the mind, listen to the whisper (or Roar), and take action. Follow it’s lead. Do the hard thing. Do the thing that scares you, take that brave step, know you are not alone, and step out as boldly as you (don’t worry about others)! You do you!

Let Go and Let God (or Universe).

You have the power within you already to know the way. You have dreams in your heart already and it is time for you to allow them to manifest. They are there for a reason. Listen, follow, take action, and let go. Stay positive. Negativity never helped anyone achieve any meaningful good. Rise up and rise above. You were born with a divine gift, and it is your time to receive it and lean in. Lean in to your spirituality, lean into the positive, lean in to the work, lean in to the wonder, and lean into the whisper in your heart.

What if I told you that anything is possibly and there was NO stopping you. What if nothing stood in your way? Get out of your way and allow yourself to follow you heart. Open your mind and heart to more abundance, more love, more choices, more blessings, more opportunity, and more alignment. It is your birth right.

Sometimes we need to settle the mind, slow down the pace (and race), and become grounded with ourselves to let go of everything around us. We need to go inwards and go deep. That is the place where we are able to align with our own voices, and in that, our own choices. This is the divine connection and where the magic exists. We just need to be guided there and be brave enough to go inside and uncover the wisdom within.

Our voices hold so much power.

We just need to boldly step forward and use it authentically and vulnerably. I believe we are all passionate about something. We believe in the good, and we can create more positive change when we use our voice for positive impact. There are some things that get in our way that we just need to call out. For most women, they are: distractions, comparison, fear, and self doubt. These cause a feeling of knowing there is more inside, but not knowing what that is.

Our choices lead us.

They lead us either in the direction of our higher self or in the opposite direction. I believe most women experience both. We are not perfect. We are human. These choices actually matter as the ones we make that may not be the right ones, are teachers and opportunities to grow, to become, to learn and to affirm.

You are empowered.

Regardless of where you stand in your voices and choices, know that you are empowered to either take action, change, or move forward boldly. You are not alone because there is a community of us that are dedicated to more. The more being showing up vibrantly in our lives and crushing the self doubt and fear that keep many women stuck.

Life has grey areas.

Too often we can think in black and white terms, and the “all or none” thing (trust me, I know this all too well). However, we are often in the grey, which is a great place to be because there are no strict rules. The grey area has more compassion, more empathy, more flexibility, and more room for growth. It allows us to be “free to be me”!

The stage of life is yours.

You have the microphone. You have the message, the belief, the spirit, and the commitment to share your voice and empower others by your action.

This walk the walk is most certainly a double entendre, and I will explain why. The statement is used to encourage us or to direct us to be the example, to actually do what we say and to be in alignment with ourselves, our values, and to be “in it”, not just saying we are in it. I think we all agree this is important to feeling connected to what we do, who we are, and how we experience both life and business.

While we walk the walk, we also can feel not ready.

We can feel not motivated, not worthy, and not aligned (this is the truth behind the beautiful photos we post on Social Media). The key is to acknowledge it and move forward with belief, confidence, and a positive heart and mindset. The more we “walk the walk” the more we are grounded and connected to what we are doing.

Imposter Syndrome is a real thing.

There are so many women out there that feel it. Too many are branding themselves in a way that they have not even reached, but regardless are stepping into it. I think it is both brave and bold. But also I think there needs to be more transparency, more credibility, and more TRUTH. We are not helping women if we are just promoting ourselves as the “IT” girl. She does not exist and no one on this earth can help you more than your own inner wisdom. TRUTH!

The other message here is completely different (hence the double entendre).

it is the concept of keep moving, and the self care and healthy work of walking outside each day. In life, we need to keep moving (even if we need to be still, take a break or regroup), following that we just need to step forward, and put one foot in front of the other. Forward momentum keeps us from feeling stuck. it keeps us moving, and it keeps us open and engaged.

Likewise, a daily walk outside with fresh air fills us up. it moves our energy and helps us raise our vibration. This is so simple and so basic. Yet when it comes to success, people are spending more time talking about algorithms than alignment, self care tools, and techniques to clear your mind, and opportunities for literally, a breath of fresh air.

I am blessed to be able to walk the beach most every day.

I pray I never take that for granted. Ironically as I write this it is raining. Yes, walking in the rain can be therapeutic, but not smart when I have a video call. So the outside walk will not happen today based on the weather and my schedule. This is an important tool for me to reset, move energy, feel good, and extra bonus when the sun is shining.

But some days are cloudy, and that is a perfect reminder that this is life. Life is both sunny and cloudy, but WE can always choose to shine. Many times I listen to a Podcast, and for shorter walks, I just take in the sounds. On every walk I at some point capture the beauty, mindfully breath in the fresh air, and have a sense of gratitude for what otherwise is part of my routine.

Let this inspire you to “walk the walk”.

Let it inspire you to take action that is aligned with your dreams, your goals, and the higher self. It is not a perfect line, so be okay with falling down. We all do, and it is just as rewarding to get back up. That is where the magic lies.

Also, let this inspire you to get more time to get outside and walk, even if it is 10 to 15 minutes a day. It is free. it can be done at any time. It can be alone, with a friend, or with your fur babies. If you are doing all of the above throughout the week, that is even better.

Put one foot in front of the other and blaze your own trail!

XO,
-Pam

I have had this practice over the years that truly helps me begin the day feeling refreshed, inspired, grateful and prepared to create a strong yet soft start to the day. I have done this seasonally, meaning, I have not done this 365 days a year, there have been days or seasons I sleep late or I just wake up and react to the day, I think many of us can relate to that scenario. I have more flexibility these days with older kids, but when they were younger, I would wake up extra early to have “my time” and it helped me do all the things before I was thrown into the morning rush before school.

I want to share with you what magical mornings are to me, and perhaps you can do the same, or take what you like or begin new daily rituals that fill your spirit & soul and prepare you for the day.

Before I share with you some things you can do, let me share with you first how this began for me.

I had this amazing practice for years of getting up early, reading, and doing some personal development before my day began. When the kids were little, I tended to work out more, but it evolved into reading and “me time”. My Dad always preached to get up early and greet the day, back then, I only did that to get on the road for my long commute into Boston, to get to work early so that I could get things done and be productive, this morning practice has grown and evolved, as have I! It used to be to check the boxes for work, then for exercise, and ultimately for me, to fill my cup with inspiration, thoughts/reflections and spiritual connection.

As I shared, morning rituals have been part of my daily routine for a long time.

Let me share with you when they became magical. I have had long seasons of being Alcohol Free, and in those times, I wake up feeling refreshed, grateful, healthy, whole and I began calling it (to myself) my magical mornings. More to come on this topic, but for now, realize that waking up without the fog, headache or lack of energy from drinking (I think those of you that drink know what I mean). A clear mind, clear eyes and no ethanol in the system is pure magic and pure joy. It sounds so simple and so smart when you break it down, but social norms say otherwise, and I myself got caught up in all the social norms and I have experienced both sides of this topic, and for now, I am going to talk about the joy of magical mornings because feeding our body and mind with good things (thoughts, food, clean drinks & hydration) just feels good. Coffee, I know it is not clean, but I am not perfect and to me, coffee is life. I love it, the smell, the taste and how I feel after. You might feel the same way about tea, a warm beverage in the morning just warms the soul.

After a good night of sleep (unless my monkey brain has got the best of me), I awaken while it is still dark outside. I role out of bed with such a full heart of gratitude, I am clear, I am present and I am so grateful for my home, my life and my favorite time of day, the morning. I prance downstairs in my jammies, I put on the light in my kitchen and I often wonder who else is up, am I the only light glowing on my street, usually not, my neighbors are morning people too. The coffee is ready the night before, I just hit brew and I admittedly am impatient waiting, so I go upstairs and usually begin a load of laundry, clothes are getting clean, and the aroma of fresh brewed coffee waffles up the stairs,

In winter months I turn on the gas fireplace…

I light the room enough so that I can read, and I grab my favorite cup, fill it up and as I do, I acknowledge this ritual, this knowing of “filling my cup”, this is my time to feed my soul. I head over to the fireplace and curl up w/a blanket on the couch, I feel so cozy, and cozy is an important feeling for me, especially in Fall & Winter. I feel such gratitude, I love this quiet time, and while it is simple, it is joyful in the most serene way. I sip my coffee, I hold it with two hands at times, I close my eyes, I enjoy this feeling of home, and being at home with myself. I love being up before others are, it is a time of tranquility, silence, and gives me space that I need to prepare for the day. I usually take time for reflection, letting all of these good feelings in, breathing, being in the moment, and also realizing how much I love my home, my family, my spirit and how much I love that first cup of coffee (yes, life is love of all the big things and the simple joys, it is loving it all). I am present, I am calm, I am breathing. This dreamer, this believer, this go getter, this yogi is always a seeker of balance, and while action is necessary in so many areas, so is rest and the re-set.

After I take the time of reflection…

I usually do some reading, mostly devotional and words of spiritual reflection—a deposit of good words, either scripture, poems, deep thoughts or inspiration, it just flows and I just let it go (or flow with it). I usually then write, journal or just do my gratitude practice, it depends on the day. I find if I am too rigid it just does not flow, so I go with what I feel, and go from there. Gratitude done daily really helps, so that is one thing that is more structured, as it is foundational to my day. On days that allow, I will go deeper into either reading or writing, and I find this is a time that thoughts and creativity are at play, and I am able to write without boundaries, judgment and just allow my feelings, ideas and lessons to go from my heart and head to paper, with hopes of sharing with others. I also can get distracted, and scroll social media and this is something I am aware of and try to work on, like my life, it is progress over perfection.

As the sun comes up and lightens the sky…

I look out the window and I am in awe of the sites. The ocean, I pray I never tire of the view, the color blue, the fog or clear morning skies—I feel deep gratitude every day that this is mine and this is ours.

I choose magic throughout the day. My magical mornings set me up for magical moments. Driving to yoga and seeing the beautiful countryside. Looking at the river while I practice. Cuddling with my puppies in my home during the day (I love working from home and I love love love my flexible schedule, it is everything to me). Magical walks on the beach or in my neighborhood. Mundane is there, as is laundry or errands, but magical moments and simple joys weave in and out of the day. I look for them, I take note, when I am present they are there. If I am going through the motions or rushing, it is reactive, mundane and not so magical or enjoyable.

in order for life to feel magical, we must be present (not to be confused with perfect). We must be mindful, we must be open, we must be curious, we must be positive (release the negativity, cynicism and critic). We must be whole hearted, whole human and spirited in the simple joys of life. We are at home with ourselves and our hearts are filled with love, love for life, simple joys and magical moments.

2022 is going to be filled with so many Magical Mornings, it is what fills my cup, my heart, my soul.

Cheers to you and to us, smashing the glass, and filling our cups. I invite you to come home to you, come home to the magic, the realness, the mess, the spirit of you! XO

Claiming all that is meant for me and all that I am. Walking into the New Year with Divine energy, curiosity and resolve to launch from where I am rather than wait for it all to be in place. I am ready, I am prepared, I am here, I am present. Everything is not in place (I am learning it never is) and I am realizing that I have everything that I need and I am that everything. I hold the power of my story, my life and my transformation—we all hold the power, we just need to grab hold and not let go. What a beautiful gift and I am ready to receive it, how about you?

As I look to the year ahead, there will be beach walks, there will be yoga, there will be magical mornings and greeting the day with gratitude, wonder and delight. Morning coffee, reading, writing and having my magical mornings on ordinary days. I will be claiming what is for me and discerning what is not for me, this is my experience and I will embrace it, teach it and walk with you through it. Every day and in every way there will be joy, joyful moments, simplicity, yummy food, laughter, love, movement, fresh air, dog walks, love, family, serenity and growth. There will also be spa retreats, travel, hikes, offerings, teaching, sharing and growing—there will be a shedding of “shoulds” and a transformation and birth of me. A becoming and an unbecoming, releasing and embracing and a balance of the two.

I have been working on this for a long time. I am preparing for a time such as this. I have experienced the self doubt, the fear, the fight, the pause, I have hit the wall and I have broken it down. I am guided, I am created, I am called to be more, I am waiting until I am ready, for I am ready, and I am stepping forward and walking into to it and not against it. I am no longer the corporation or brand I am with, the title that I have earned, the brand I have built, the roles that I play, the expectations of others, the expectations of myself.

I am me. I am here. I am Pam. I am strong, I am confident, I am smart, I am talented, I am loving, I am funny, I am spirited, I am spiritual, I am alive, I am free. I am free to be me. I am vulnerable, I am sensitive, I am afraid, I am overwhelmed, but I am here. I am doing this and I am loving every part of me. I am human. I am whole. I am here.

I believe in others. I champion others. I am a visionary. I am a listener, I am a teacher, I am a coach. I am present. I see opportunity. I am optimistic. I am a vision caster. I am an architect. I inspire others in their greatness and stepping into their divine. We are doing this, we are doing this together.

I believe in living your best life, I believe in miracles, I believe in mindset, I believe in new starts and new days, I believe in kindness, I believe in love, I believe in hope, I believe in authenticity, I believe in the higher self, I believe in transformation, I believe in simplicity, I believe in joy, I believe in serenity, I believe in mindful moments, I believe in seasons, I believe in gratitude, I believe in God, I believe in the Universe, I believe in Angels, I believe in teamwork, I believe in humanity, I believe in cheerfulness, I believe in good deeds, I believe in generosity, I believe in all that is good, I believe in you. I believe in me. I believe in us.
In this miracle of life, we have all of these gifts, and they weave in with the day to day, the mundane, the challenges, the obstacles and the things that we don’t enjoy but we must do. We face these things with an open heart and mind, we take action, we do the next right thing. We prioritize what needs our attention and we address that first each day and we follow through on the things that must be done. We balance all of this with our zestful joy, and we bring presence to all the things with love and care. We bring more love to these things and they go from chores to acts of love. Love for self and love for others. We move differently. We stop reacting and we begin responding with love, with curiosity and with a full heart. We have clarity like never before. We are mindful. We are present. We see the good and our negative thoughts begin to shed, they begin to be held by our caring hearts and we begin to believe and see the brighter side to everything. We release what is no longer serving us, the people, the things, the energy—we let it go. We also allow ourselves to rest, to just be, to not be growing, or doing & achieving. We experience balance in this, a mindful escape into a book, a show, and we balance that with our thoughtful, intentional way of being. When we pause, we breathe we inhale love, we exhale fear.

Life feels magical, because it is. We feel like a miracle, because we are. We attract the right people, the right opportunities, the right choices because we are aligned, we are connected to our divine and this internal knowing and connection is setting us on a Path that is congruent in all we do. We are changing lives only because we are changing ourselves, growing, transforming and becoming who we are mean’t to be.
This is not a new year and new you. This is who you were born to be—it is you that has been there the entire time. You have been working on her, she has been growing, evolving, getting stuck and becoming unstuck. Roadblocks, failure or challenges are a part of the journey, they make us richer, and they make us whole human. You are a whole human and you understand both the vulnerability and vitality in it all. You choose you. You rise up. You own your fear. You stand up. You use your voice. You share your story. You inspire others. You live your life on your terms. You design your life based on your hearts desires. You are free. You are the co-creator, You are the divine. You are my darling girl, you are ready!

Walk with me, hold my hand, we’ve got this, I’ve got you! XO

I am writing this to touch as many people as I can because the Holidays bring up so many emotions, and it is my hope this letter warms your heart and fills your soul. The reason for the season is all about birth, it is all about love and it is that moment we feel deep within our souls the light and love of the Season. Not everyone is feeling that way, and that is okay. Each Season I have had to look for the Blessings, all while feeling the feelings of the Season which also include sadness, stress, grief, overwhelm and exhaustion. My mother had this beautiful gift of putting everything into perspective and finding the light, and sharing that light with everyone around her. I am carrying on that tradition and gift, and while I have my own feelings (and burdens), I too have so much joy, so much love and there are gifts in this season that are available to all of us. May we see that light, may we feel that light and may we be that light.

To those of you that are grieving a loved one, be it the first Christmas or years later:

I hear you, I am you and I understand you and hold space for you. I will never forget that pain on that first Christmas without my Dad—it was so difficult and somehow we did it, we gathered and we felt my Dad’s spirit and his love for the Christmas season and his family. I heard a message from him “See the lights and think of me”, to this day, I see the lights and think of the wonder of my loved ones that are not here but this is what I know for sure, they are here. They are with you, they are the lights on the tree (or the candles), they are the laughter in your kids or loved ones, they are the sparkle in the new babies eyes, they are the angels above and they are the bells and the music of the Season. Feel that love. Feel it deep in your soul and know they are with you, and dance in delight as you gather, as you grow and as you live your life. I believe. I believe with my whole heart.

To those that are dealing with illness of you or a loved one:

Faith will guide you and while we cannot control these situations, what we can do is control how we receive them. Look for the blessings, live in the present and be patient with your mixed feelings and emotions. I will never forget that last Christmas with my Mom (diagnosed with Cancer less than a month before Christmas), we all silently knew it would be our last, and we did not bring any attention to that, we laughed, we loved, we were present and it was hard and beautiful all in one. I see you, I hear you, I am you.

To those experiencing financial burden or hardship, remember this is just a season.

In this journey of life, many of us do find a time that we experience hardship and while I have experienced this growing up and in my adult life a few times, I can say that it is not permanent and sometimes these hardships are blessings in disguise. Know that any challenge in our life is just there to teach us something, it is there as a guide post to redirect, and be open to change. I know it feels heavy, but you are stronger and you are empowered to rewrite this story. I know because I have been there, and I did not stay there, from debt to dreams, believe it can happen, and know it takes hard work, discipline and time. My Dad did not have money yet he felt he was the Richest man alive (attitude & gratitude truly are everything)!

To those that are feeling stressed, exhausted and depleted with all the running around and the hustle and bustle of the Season.

I am guessing you are a Mom and I just want to say you are AMAZING. Santa Clause is not the star of the day, you are and while no one really see’s all you do, I see you, I hear you, I am you. You might be asking did you do enough, you might be kicking yourself for not getting matching PJ’s this year as you do every year (um okay Pam get over it) or what ever it is you are obsessing about. LET IT GO. You did enough, you are enough and the best gift you can give your kids is you. The calm, present, joyful version, you know her, just be her (even if you lose it or are letting the doubt creep in).

For the Moms of little ones…

Enjoy this special time. It is fleeting. Those magical years are going to fill your soul for the rest of your life. And guess what, when your littles get bigger, you will still feel that magic and will create it in your home. Pause. Be Present. Look for the Gifts. Feel the Joy. It really is there, you just need to be open to receive it.

To those that are dealing with a personal struggle that is personal to you.

Never give up hope and always believe in better. Better days, better ways. While this may feel like a burden (which most likely it is), it is also an invitation for change. A nudge from the Universe or God to explore and be brave to either ask for help or do the work to begin to explore your situation and how to address it. Be patient with yourself, challenges are journeys and some take time. Shift your attitude of “why is this happening to me” and ask “what is this trying to teach me”. Shift the energy of feeling stuck or stagnant to feeling empowered and led to change. You are empowered at any given moment to open your heart and mind to change, and you are human and vulnerable, so be patient with yourself or those around you. Every experience is an opportunity to learn, to grow and to become. I hear you, I see you, I am you.

It has without a doubt been the most challenging times and as such, we have all been impacted by these challenges.

In this Season, and in the New Year let's remember these important things we all need to do. Breath. Be Present. Know you are not alone (you are never alone). Be Grateful (gratitude truly does work and shifts everything). Choose Joy (it is always there for you, even in the most simple ways). Be Kind (you never know what someone is going through (be the light). Let Your Heart Be Light…. That is my message to you this Season and always. Let Your Heart Be Light and when you are feeling otherwise, Let it Go, Let it Go, Let it Go!

Happy Holidays from my Heart to Yours. May you be Safe, May you be Blessed and may you feel the Love. I love you, I see you, I am you!

XO

What do I need to align with my higher self?

I need magical mornings, waking up before the sun rises, feeling the warmth and magic of my home. Reading words that are spiritual and feed my soul. Writing on the mornings I want to either reflect, let go or fill up. Warm coffee that reminds me of happy hour (my happy hour). In winter, fuzzy socks, a warm fire and the feeling of warmth inside (inside my heart and inside my home). In Summer, seeing the sun rise, looking at the Ocean and feeling the gratitude of it all. It is magical and it is mine. Every season and every reason I see with clarity, gratitude, zest, curiosity and feel this magic, and share this magic.

I need to move my body. Yoga every damn day (or close to that), walks with my dogs and also walks on the beach daily. Fresh air, sunshine and movement—it stirs my soul and lifts my spirit.

I need exercise. I need to sweat. Hot Power Yoga, or a walk/run or dare I dream get on my Peloton I have barely used. Exercise that I do to stay healthy, to clear my mind, and to sweat with strength, joy and energy. I get stronger every day because I make exercise a priority, it is my oxygen along with yoga, fresh air and spiritual mornings—my magical mornings.

I need to nourish my body with Whole Foods. I eat mostly good, and I view it as fuel for my body. Nourishment that gives my energy, strength and ease. I am my right size (petite, light, and free). Though she be little she is fierce, she no longer lets the weight of the world or her empathetic, highly sensitive heart absorb what is not hers.

I need to hydrate my body. Water is my friend and when in doubt, I chug it out. I keep my body hydrated which helps me remove toxins, and shine bright!

I train my brain with good thoughts. Negativity comes up, but I make a choice each time to re-direct, and think about the beauty and wonder in all of my experiences. They are here to teach me, guide me either towards them or away from something. Guideposts and signs are everywhere and I move with curiosity, spirit, wonder and ease.

I practice gratitude, it is the foundation of my being. I have a grateful heart, I know how blessed I am and I honor that and God in all I do. I am a child of God, and I am protected, even when I am rejected.

I serve others. I am a dynamic speaker, a soul centered entrepreneur and I have a gift others need. I am skilled at coaching, teaching and I am a content creator that shifts thinking, shifts beliefs and builds confidence in those seeking more or seeking less. I am a spiritual leader that facilitates positive change and lifting the hearts and vision of those around me.

I am a loving Mother and have based my entire career and life around my family. In this next phase of Empty Nesting, I inspire other women and moms to own their lives, lead their families and become the best version of themselves. My true calling is helping others find their highest calling—we are the co-creators of our lives.

I am a wife and invest in this partnership that is so important to me. We did an amazing job raising our children and now it is our time to dream (again), to create and to heal. We are on our own paths, and I am following mine and blessing him on his. I release my tendency of co-dependency and rise up to my greatest self and greatest calling which is influencing our relationship and him in the best possible way. Partners in life but on our own paths and blazing our own trails.

I am a good friend to those in my circle. I listen, I support, I love, I laugh and I learn—I only surround myself with people who build me up and I do the same for them. Small talk is not our jam, we go deep, we laugh hard and we can count on each other no matter what. I influence the next generation to invite only positive friendships into their lives and to leave the rest behind. Some endings can be the best beginnings!

I practice self care more than ever because it is the only way I can not only feel my best, but serve this life as God has intended. I have a spirit like no other, and rather than dull it down, I have released it free and it is changing the world. My spirit, my voice and my message is in high vibration because it is authentic, it is free flowing and it is me! I teach other women how to stop dulling down and how to shine bright. We are all mean’t to shine, even in the darkness (and in spite of the darkness).

I rest. I rest my body. I rest my mind. I rest my spirit, and I teach other women to do the same. I am a warrior, but I am no longer a hustler, I no longer work hard/play hard. I work hard and rest harder—that is where true joy exists, that is where the magic happens.

Letting Go…

In order to align with my higher self, these are some things I need to let go of…

Numbing of all kinds: Alcohol, Food, Social Media, I am aware of this, and mindful of numbing for me and it’s negative impact. When I procrastinate, compare, worry, blame, obsess—it only leads to fear, negativity, shame, low self esteem, ego (in my head)—not a place or space I want to reside in. In the simplest form, being enough, being accepted, being liked, being loved is what we all want at a very human basic level. I am human, I am vulnerable, I am aware, I am here.

But also…

I am loved. I am enough. I am strong. I am confident. I am productive. I am capable. I am worthy. I am smart. I am chosen. I am ready.

Personal growth happens on many levels. For me, I mostly lean into Vision, Dreams, Desires and follow that path, which is important, because if I stay focused on my personal challenges or fears, I can become stuck. It is beneficial to occasionally go back in time—it can provide information, context and data on our beliefs & mindset—but we must be present and also cast our vision for our future.

Vision always helps me move forward, but at times, it is helpful to take a look back and to learn and grow (which requires grace, compassion and love).

I recently had an experience that I want to share with you. I was guided through an experience that made me realize how far I have come. I am sharing with you because it would be a great exercise for you to do, to not only embrace your inner child, but also to understand the woman you have become. You hold such power, you have such strength and there are times you don’t feel it because you still hold on to that inner child which is also a good thing, because she is part of you. What is so empowering is that not only will this encourage you and the woman you have become, it will also encourage you to step forward and keep on becoming. Sometimes becoming is an unbecoming, it really depends on each person and what it is we need to work on. For some it is creating more,and for others it is letting go and releasing what no longer serves them (for most, it is a combination of both). Our lives are seasonal and each season and phase brings not only new opportunities but also challenges and that is the wonder and beauty of it all.

Let me share with you the visual experience I was guided through, and perhaps you can do the same for yourself at a time where you can quiet your mind, relax and lay down, close your eyes and put yourself in the same situation.

In my minds eye, I was brought back to my childhood home (as an adult, me today). I stood in front of the home, I opened the front door, I moved my way to my childhood bedroom. As I opened the door to my childhood bedroom, the little girl version of me was sitting on my bed. I was told that I was me, and the little girl was me then, and we met for the first time and we both knew that we were both me. With that cue, I hugged this darling little girl, we smiled, hugged, and cried happy tears. I told her how beautiful she was, I looked at her with such confidence and I wanted to share her how beautiful her life has been, and I might even have said, “you did it, you let your spirit shine, and you have made this world a better place”. I could not help but think of the humble beginnings this little girl had, she was so well loved,and in spite of that, she was fearful there was never enough and that she was not enough. She also knew she had something special inside of her, she felt it inside and she noticed it when interacting with others, they made her feel special (although her big brothers and sisters kept her in check and would push her down literally and figuratively as the youngest of 5). She would experience that tender balance of being loved by some, and rejected by others, it stayed with her and shaped her experiences. they made her feel special (although her big brothers and sisters kept her in check and would push her down literally and figuratively as the youngest of 5).

I was then guided to my home now (at this point it began to feel like Christmas Carol), I was at the front of my home, with little Pam next to me, I held her hand as we entered my home. It was just the two of us, and I was beaming with delight showing her how we've grown, how all the dreams she held and nurtured over the years have become a reality. She looked at the ocean out the window, and looked back at me as if to say, is this really ours? Yes baby girl it most certainly is. She twirled with delight, dancing and feeling so at home, so free, so loved and so playful. She was safe, she was loved, she was now in my care and she felt that love from me like never before! Little Pam met my family, she laughed in delight at the kids, she looked at Charlie with curiosity and she smiled at me with pride. I told her how proud I was of her,how much I loved her and what a kind, beautiful, loving girl she is. She just hugged me, she did not say anything to me but her expression and movement said it all. She was happy, she was safe, she was loved, she was at home and she was me. Her spirit is strong, and she never understood that until she became an adult.

Mind Blowing!!!!! I actually felt like I met her and the fact that we met as her and as me knowing each other was the same was a mind blowing experience. It felt so real, it felt so incredibly moving and spiritual, it felt like I needed to go back and see her, and also have her travel forward and see me.

If I had any last words it would be this (take in these words yourself)…. Baby Girl, you might be afraid at times, you might feel frustrated, happy, sad, loved and afraid, all of these feelings, they are just that, feelings…. You are so loved, you are safe, you are special, you are kind, you are smart, you are capable of all things, you are worthy, you are mean’t for greatness, you are going to soar! This was an exercise of self love, this was a deep dive in, it was healing, it was meaningful and it was a great opportunity to see how far I have come. This little girl is with me for the duration of my life, I have such confidence and conviction not only for us, but to step up and help so many of you. We all just want to love and be loved. We all need to let our spirits soar, to feel the magic and to bless the mess.

I don’t know that I have ever told her how beautiful she is, how much I love her, how darling she is, how kind, smart, funny and loving she is. I have had that opportunity and I am never going to stop saying it and I am never going to stop dancing with her, hugging her, loving her, and twirling round and round in this magic thing called life.

Let’s do this baby girl! XO

As I am working behind the scenes on programs to deliver in 2022, I have been challenged with truly identifying who my people are, who is my audience and who will benefit from my content? In my heart of hearts, I think every mom, every woman at every age deserves to Live HIPP & my belief is that everyone can use the inspiration, motivation and encouragement to explore their whole human experience, and lean in to their purpose, their strengths and their magic.

As I was thinking about this at the kitchen sink, I looked down to see a Christmas figurine that my mother gave me years ago, it is similar to one we had when I was young. It is 3 angels (as pictured here), and Mom always referred to it as me and my sisters: Michelle, Susan, Pamela…. The 3rd angel is not conforming to the rest, she has her eyes open, her feet crossed and most notable her halo is slanted—so you can imagine I was that child, and I like to think that I was “special”. I sent a picture of the Angels to my sisters to laugh at my Mom’s humor, and how this was displayed at home with our names on it. I wrote to my sisters and said, see, Mom was right, I am the one on the right. My sister was sure to remind me that no matter what,if our Halo (crown) is crooked (which we all have one at times) that we will be there for each other to straighten it out. She also exclaimed that we all have our (Halo) crown crooked at times, and we are there for each other to straighten it!

Now, if I were to look back and uncover why eye’s open, toes crossed, Halo slanted was me, I can better understand…. While we did not know it at the time, I was ADHD, throw in some Anxiety, OCD etc…. As an Adult, I have experienced those things along side some challenging life experiences (so if you move forward in life despite the challenges you face, you will understand what I mean). I spent decades hiding them, running from them and burying them. In spite of these that we don’t want to talk about, these things that many women experience, these things that are not sexy, fun, successful but are REAL! These are my things, and anyone that has big dreams, a desire to step into their greatness and invite every vulnerable part of them, then YOU ARE MY PEOPLE!!!!!! We are the Angels or Queens that occasionally need to fix our Crown, and the courage to do so is not only in me, it is in you!!!! It is no wonder when I created the Lifestyle Brand Living HIPP, there was a crown, at the time, it was to represent your power, and knowing that we all are Queens and we all wear a crown, we really do. But lets be real, our Crown can be crooked at times because we are human, and with that, we need to learn to navigate life and straighten out our crown. This is a process that happens over and over, and when it is crooked, we need to be okay with that, because that is what makes us special, and this human side of us is what people relate to.

The big difference with Living HIPP is that not only do we fix our own crown, but we fix other’s too, without telling the world it was crooked! Yes, THAT IS IT!!!! There is a meme out there that says “be the type of girl that fixes another girls crown without telling the world it was crooked”. My friend and business partner sent it to me a few years ago, and said “this is you”. That is the spirit of Living HIPP and this brand. “Be good to yourself (put yourself first w/self care) and Be Good to the World” (meaning be good to those around you). There is so much power in that, it sounds so simple, but let's face it, we can use more of this in the world.

If you read this far and this resonates with you, perhaps your Halo slants or your Crown goes Crooked some days…. You are my people and Living HIPP is a place you can work on being a better version of you (all while loving all parts of you that make you special)!!!!!

Be Real, Be Brave, Be Better, Be You!!!!!! XO